Miotosa

Lady Bird

Di dalam perjalanan karir kita khususnya saya sebagai yang dikatakan kaum millenials, akan ada masa dimana kita melirik kulit luar pencapaian yang diraih orang lain. Kita melihat teman kita yang memulai karir di saat yang sama atau rentang waktu yang berdekatan dengan kita sudah mencapai posisi yang katakanlah seorang Assistant Manager ataupun Manager lalu timbul reaksi dalam diri kita yang dinamakan rasa iri. Rasa iri tersebut memacu kita semua berlari cepat mengejar puncak karir dan kadang malah menjadi terburu-buru atau tergesa-gesa. Manifestasinya bisa kita lihat dengan mudah, betapa banyak kaum millenials yang memasang Career Goals yang fantastis dalam waktu yang singkat entah karena confidence atau terburu-buru karena pengaruh teman. Menurut saya, terburu-buru/tergesa-gesa itu adalah suatu hal yang tidak baik. Bahkan Nenek saya mengajarkan bahwa yang terburu-buru itu adalah saudaranya setan. Kita merasa malu atau gagal saat karir kita tidak sebagus teman kita dan kita lupa bahwa perjalanan hidup orang berbeda dengan yang lainnya. Yang tidak kalah pentingnya, berapa banyak orang orang yang menaiki puncak karir dengan cepat tapi tidak memiliki kedewasaan yang cukup untuk memikulnya. Career development itu menurut saya, tidak hanya mengenai posisi yang berubah dari staff menjadi supervisor, supervisor menjadi asst. man, dan seterusnya. Tapi penting untuk kita pikirkan juga apakah secara personal diri kita ikut ter develop juga? Apakah diri kita menjadi semakin kaya dalam hal pengetahuan, wisdom, kemampuan menghadapi masalah, mengendalikan emosi dan lain lain yang semakin memantapkan keyakinan apakah kita capable atau tidak untuk posisi tersebut. Untuk kita yang sedang berada di early stage of our career, pahamilah bahwa cerita kehidupanmu dan kehidupan orang lain berbeda. Kita berada disini, adalah rencana Tuhan yang terbaik untuk kita dalam pengembangan kedewasaan. Nantinya saat kita mencapai posisi sebut saja Manager, mungkin kita akan menjadi Manager dengan skill set dan fondasi-fondasi lainnya yang lebih kuat dibandingkan teman teman kita yang melejit lebih dulu. Jadi, daripada terlalu berfokus pada cerita kesuksesan orang lain, lebih baik kita bersyukur dan Embrace Our Story terlebih dahulu :).

Hello everyone, it's been a long time since my last post. I really do apologize for not continuing the story of my first trip to Japan. Since the trip has long since ended, I would not want to continue writing the stories about it because the feeling of excitement from the fresh experience has long since deteriorates. I actualy went for the second time to Japan visiting Hokkaido, the northern most island of Japan archipelago. I hope I could share it you next time on my blog.





Anyway, this time I would like to share some review of a movie I have recently just watch. The title of the movie is " The Danish Girl" which came out in 2015 and starred by Eddie Redmayne as Einer Wegener & Lili Elbe and Alicia Vikander as Gerda Wegener. It tells a love story inspired by the life of a Danish artists Lili Elbe and Gerda Wegener. Lili Elbe was born a man under the name of Einer Wegener where after his marriage he discovered that he is actually a woman named Lili and pioneered the first transgender surgery in history.





So the story revolves around the journey of self discovery, denial, acceptance and changes of Einer Wegener into a woman named Lili Elbe accompanied by Gerda Wegener, his wife who later became supportive of him despite all the inner turmoil she experienced and the desire to keep her husband as the man that she loves. What makes this movie so surprisingly good, is that we can learn that love is loving unconditionally. Every sane woman on this world would have left their husband when they found out that their husband choose to be a transgender. But Gerda chose to stay by her husband to support and help him getting through all his confusion and inner turmoil even until her husband was completely, entirely, a woman through surgery. We could all learn some lessons from this story about love, compassion and generosity through Gerda's love for her husband. IMDB rate this movie on 7 out of 10 while I would give this movie a perfect 10. Everything from the act, cinematic picture, storyline and the music will take you into the story really deep. (Spoiler alert) The ending was quite moving as Lili Elbe who after receiving a surgery to reconstruct a woman's vagina lay down on her chair accompanied by Gerda said "I finally become Lili entirely. I dreamt that my mother carried me as a baby on her arms and called me Lili" and soon after that, Lili took her last breath, died from infection on her uterus. They were warned that the surgery was never attempted before and there is a high risk of infection and complication but Lili insist on getting the surgery as she refers to it as her only hope of living entirely herself.

If you all are interested in watching it, you can stream it online at subsmovies. This is one of those movie that will change your paradigm.